Give your best marriage/dating advice.

I'm 31, been with my wife for 12 years.

Sooner or later, one of you will let the other one down in a significant way. You MUST learn to "forgive and forget" or you will suffer with anger and depression forever.

OR, you leave.

The problem with leaving, is that the anger NEVER goes away unless you forgive and forget. In which case, it would have been better and easier to forgive and forget in the first place. It's EASY to forgive, it's infinitely more difficult to forget.

I can't even begin to tell you have relevant this is in my life right now, but it sucks the big one for sure.

 

Cheaper to keep 'er...

 

Nice!!

What you said was so sweet and you took it back as soon as you Met Cpatcrash. Pat Burton .:?:

 

Best advice I ever heard...

"Before getting married ask yourself this question... Forget love, forget being friends for now.....what needs to be answered is; is this the person I would want to legally own half of my life?"

The longer you think about it, the more it sets in. Seems easy to look over when times are good, but when things are shakey during the BF / GF stage, or even the engagement stage, you really need to ask yourself this question several times while standing in front of the mirror..

Just my $.02

 

Make sure she Mtn Bikes!

 

My boyfriend and I have been together 6-1/2 months. I have had LTR before and even engaged. What I think makes us so wonderful now is that we one are best friends. We're both the biggest retards. Two, HONESTY. If someone doesn't know who you are or where you stand how do you expect them to fall for the real you? I tell him everything as well as he does to me. So to sum up be real, honest and communicate.

 

This is why I'm not married...

 

Don't.

 

if she can keep up on the merrils she might be worth it!

 

Common intrests

Been married 19 years. In my opinion you have to find common interest and do things together as often as possible. Over the course of time these interests might change so don't get into a rut, look for new adventures. For us its travel. We try to spend at least a week every year in a city we have never been before.

 

don't try to change a person. You picked them and have to deal with all that they are.

 

marriage advice:

laugh lots
be best friends
have fun
never go to bed angry, and be ready to apologize even if you know your right sometimes

and

be honest with each other about your money. I'm serious. Most fights are about money and its the one thing people hate to ever talk about. If you don't feel comfortable talking about personal finances then you should really rethink marriage.

 

just be good to the wife & kids (if any), get your ride on and keep on a smile....

Is that all there is, is that all there is
If that's all there is my friends, then let's keep dancing
Let's break out the booze and have a ball
If that's all there is

 

If it's got tits or tires, it's trouble. :?:

Seriously though...if you aren't HAPPY, get OUT. Don't string it along. It took me a few relationships to learn that. If you don't look forward to seeing her, if you aren't happy to get every phone call from her...something's wrong. Fix it, or get out of it.

Other signs you need to get out:
You're flirting with others.
You're annoyed when you see her number on the caller ID.
You don't go out of your way at least once in a while to make her smile or feel special.

Naturally, ladies, the same goes in reverse.

ALSO...if you're the kind of person that has a hard time admitting you're wrong - be prepared to stay single.

That's the best advice I have off the top of my head.

 

Just LOVE her no matter how hard it is(sometimes), and ladies, RESPECT him, no matter how hard it is(sometimes). Then watch it reciprocate and enjoy the snowball effect!

 

ride together! (interpret at your own discretion...)

Kidding aside, I added one vow to ours entitled Winay Wayna, which translates as "Forever Young". It's my mantra. Winay Wayna is an Inca ruin down the Inca Trail from Machu Picchu (we spent a month in Peru in '96 when we first met). And by "forever young" or "eternal youth" I don't mean Botox and all that crap, but I mean to retain the same love and enthusiasm for each other, for yourself, for your friends, and for life, spirit, and soul as you've known since you first fell in love, and really since you've known anything at all. Geesh, I'm getting all choked up...what is this, Loveline?

 

Marriage = Naked Man Toy in my bed everynight....wahooo!!!

Happiness is a choice YOU must make....

 

My advice:

Make sure your bikes are all the same color.
It make it easier to trick your wife that you only have one!

 

"Divinity lies within." Don’t look to the churches or to the big marble institutions. Your divinity lies within. You must learn to operate your brain, operate your soul"
First and greatest American philosopher Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

Love, Honor and Negotiate.