My weekend v. will it ever end

[OMR]

Keep the positive attitude going... you will survive this. Don't waste your time on negative thoughts...especially on the things you can't change. You've got your priorities straight... your daughter. You will get throught this... I did... you will.

I was married as your were with a daughter too and left after 6 years. We'd grown apart... in different directions. I felt guilty when I left (and still do for leaving a child) but never looked back. I remarried 2 years later and have been now happily married for 34 years with 2 more daughters. My wife Nancy is my best friend. In retrospect, I made the right decision... but that's hard to know when you're going through all this sh*t... no other word for it.

As Doug (Pacman) said, been there, done that and don't want to do that again. If you want to talk, you've got friends here to offer support... cause that's what we do for each other.

OMR
(Gregg)... cell number (949) 422-0660, If you ever want to just talk, call me anytime.

[dstepper]

Originally Posted by tkblazer

when you find yourself in a situation like this, you must think to yourself.... What Would Do?

In situations like this sometimes it is not what to do...it is what you don't do. Don’t participate in the chaos; shield your daughter from the insanity...or else she will be acting out like her mother. I don’t care ex-wife or not, if someone is vandalizing my stuff I am pressing charges against them. Police reports may come in handy down the road during custody battles. Always remember it is not what happens to us in this life, it is how we react to it. Be strong and be better than her...do it for your daughter.

And finally PM and ask Letyrides advice…she skates for Psycho Ex-girlfriend.

[tkblazer]

The Dean has spoken

[ezzyride]

I just want to say that OMR is a very wise man. Hope you listen to his advice. Focus on the positive for your little one. Sounds like you are a good father concerned about your child.

Also not all ex-wives are going to max your credit cards and go after you (gentleman).

The only thing I wanted from my divorce were my girls. I had their best interest in mind. I didn't want anything neither child support (I know some people don't have this choice). My girls know they can depend on me.

I am very proud to fill in both shoes mommy and daddy.

I never say an I'll word about their dad it's not necessary. Might be in the best interest of your little one for you to do the same.

Things do get better - hopefully they will get better for you soon.

I admire you for jumping in to the fying pan so soon...you are a brave soul.

[spookydave]

Hey, it could always be worse.
I mean, her ex husband could have handed you a big box and then knocked your teeth out.

Next time maybe try getting the divorce before getting the new girlfriend.

[Fired Yo Momma]

Pac Man (Doug) you da "Pac Man" for getting your kid back and spending the cash for your kid. I love stories like this!!! I know if I had a kid my life would totaly change, proberly for the better.

Gregg I now have your phone number and will be calling you at 315AM to see if you want to party! J/K

[DeeZee]

Originally Posted by ezzyride

I just want to say that OMR is a very wise man. Hope you listen to his advice. Focus on the positive for your little one. Sounds like you are a good father concerned about your child.

Also not all ex-wives are going to max your credit cards and go after you (gentleman).

The only thing I wanted from my divorce were my girls. I had their best interest in mind. I didn't want anything neither child support (I know some people don't have this choice). My girls know they can depend on me.

I am very proud to fill in both shoes mommy and daddy.

I never say an I'll word about their dad it's not necessary. Might be in the best interest of your little one for you to do the same.

Things do get better - hopefully they will get better for you soon.

I admire you for jumping in to the fying pan so soon...you are a brave soul.

I never say an I'll word about their dad it's not necessary. Might be in the best interest of your little one for you to do the same.

ezzyride.......you are also wise

[BAD_S197]

I told my wife in a conversation we had on the phone...

"it's not about you and me or me and my gf anymore.. it's about our daughter and us working to make sure she is happy because she's what should be the real issue now"...

she didn't reply

I called last night and asked how she was doing and my wife said "how do you think"... and i said (despite all she has done to my possessions and my car)... "cause i still care your ok".... to which she broke out in uncontrollable tears and crying.

later called back to talk to my daughter for a couple minutes which went well.

I got a "i love you daddy"... from her before i hung up.

Originally Posted by PacMan

Good luck to you bro. I went through a similar (if not worse) situation many moons ago.

I was married for 4 years and had a son with my ex when she left me for another guy. OK, fine, whatever. Well, 6 months after we split, she and her new BF disappeared with our son, who was 3 at the time.

It took me 11 months and $11,000+ in fees to a private detective to track her down. Before we found her, the court issued warrants for her and an order for my son to be returned to me with full custody. My PD found her hiding in another state and I got my son back. My PD was highly recommended and worked on a contingency basis--if he didn't find my son, I didn't owe him a dime. Well, he found my son and it was the best $11,000 I ever spent.

It was the hardest year of my life not knowing where he was and if he was OK. I got through it and I know you can too. Just be strong for your daughter and always remember that she's worth it (I know you know this, but you get what I'm saying).

PM me if you ever want to talk bro. We may not know each other, but like I said, I've been there and I'm a good listener.

i read this and while i'm a pretty strong guy.. started to tear up at work.

it's nice to know people who've been there and done it... to get advice from.

so far daughter visitation is going the way we talked about, so far.

time will tell.