Did anyone else have a Drug problem?

[Shu]

[DownHillPhil]

Not to that degree but I was good friends with a cowboy-engraved leather belt

[reflux]

Originally Posted by DownHillPhil

Not to that degree but I was good friends with a cowboy-engraved leather belt

Children, especially when I was one, need to be given limits.

[DownHillPhil]

Originally Posted by reflux

Children, especially when I was one, need to be given limits.

Definitely. And when you exceed that limit, you get your ass kicked. Sure taught me to adhere to a rule structure.

[Stray_Bullit]

Originally Posted by DownHillPhil

Definitely. And when you exceed that limit, you get your ass kicked. Sure taught me to adhere to a rule structure.

Wanna be my new babysitter?

[bevaaler]

no doubt, both my Mom and Dad new how to lay the smack down!! My Mom had a large hard plastic spoon to smack us with and Dad had the leather belt with metal gromets to lay down his smack.. We definitely knew the limits and boundaries set forth by Mom & Dad. Erik

[Zippy]

I remember red hand prints on my ass and face after backtalking or being disobedient. Mom used chili powder instead of soap. Worked...

[DownHillPhil]

Originally Posted by Stray_Bullit

Wanna be my new babysitter?

I don't know if I could kick your daughter's ass Marshall

She's pretty yoked

[reflux]

Originally Posted by Zippy

I remember red hand prints on my ass and face after backtalking or being disobedient. Mom used chili powder instead of soap. Worked...

My mouth was clean as a child; my sisters and I knew better than to ever use foul language in front of our parents. But damn, chili powder?!

[tbowren]

As a parent of 2 young boys, I have found that any kind of discipline that involves violence just promotes them to be more violent. It teaches them to hurt people when they don't get their way.

Sometimes I wonder if all the violence we see in our culture is also a result of parents "drugging" their kids.

[bighit8]

I used to have to go out and pick out the tree limb I wanted to be swatted with. If it wasnt big enough I had to go get one that was!

Edit: spelling

[bobzrag]

mmmmm drugs

can someone define "problem" for me?

[reflux]

Originally Posted by tbowren

As a parent of 2 young boys, I have found that any kind of discipline that involves violence just promotes them to be more violent. It teaches them to hurt people when they don't get their way.

Sometimes I wonder if all the violence we see in our culture is also a result of parents "drugging" their kids.

At the same time, some of the worst people I've come across had parents who babied them and never set boundaries. Those people had no respect for their parents; they talked back and did sh1t I NEVER would've done to or in front of my parents. What does that mean for the "drugging" issue at hand? Nothing. There are a plethora of examples for and against, which just means there's more to the roots of violence than spanking as a child.

If there was one thing my parents did well, it was be consistent. If we were spanked, we sure as hell did something to deserve it. Never for any other reason. Boundaries were set; we knew where they were and we didn't cross them, or else. It sounds harsh and at times it sucked, but it taught limits (extrapolate that concept to society as a whole). Also, love in the household was never an issue.

[Pain Freak]

As a child I was called "incorrigible", and I'll admit it 100%. But I got taken away from my family, not for the bad things I'd done, but they thought I might get killed by my Dad who was raised by "the belt", or whatever else was handy. Did it help? Hell no, and it doesn't help today. You can beat a child all you want, it won't be what stops them. What stops them is usually the pain they see in their parents face, but threats or physical force really doesn't stop most kids.

Please don't hit your kids.

[foofighter]

i dont hit my kids I grew up getting hit and i didnt like it either, i give them a good swat to the butt as a last resort when time outs dont work and that usually lets them understand that i'm serious. Kids then, now and future will always push the limits and as parents we have to keep them in check, it makes us feel good when people walk by our table at a restaurant and say you have the most well behaved kids I've ever seen (8, 5, and 2 year old).

[bighit8]

My boys know that when I point my index finger at them and give them a look, dad is mad, and that is all it takes.I am some what free with them, but consistent in discipline. I have never had to spank them. Rather; after they are not in trouble any more, I make them tell me why they think I was mad.Explain what they did wrong and then tell them I love them, and tell them why they were in trouble.

[thephat]

I have never hit either of my children. I don't judge folks who do.

My kids are very respectfull and well behaved. I feel lucky.

I think different situations require different solutions.

My parents never hit me, but they hit my sister occasionaly. She pushed limits harder than I, and she also got caught more.

I think that it is important to make sure that the disciplin that you give is not breaking the kid down, but ultimately building them up.

[dutch]

not quite sure what my parents did entirely, but the most physical discipline I ever got was a flick to the ear.

I think a stern parent who encourages and praises good deeds and scolds and educates about bad deeds will trump any parent who drugs their kid to this, that, chu