Did anyone else have a Drug problem?

[BRpunkRock]

Originally Posted by DownHillPhil

Not to that degree but I was good friends with a cowboy-engraved leather belt

I got the wooden mixing spoon from the kitchen drawer, pretty soon all my Mom had to do was open the drawer when I was being a pest and I was an angel again.

Originally Posted by reflux

My mouth was clean as a child; my sisters and I knew better than to ever use foul language in front of our parents. But damn, chili powder?!

I got tobasco when I said the "F" word ONCE! Then when I was about over it she told me soap would make the fire go away.... Did I mention my parents were both Marines!

[bighit8]

Originally Posted by BRpunkRock

I got the wooden mixing spoon from the kitchen drawer, pretty soon all my Mom had to do was open the drawer when I was being a pest and I was an angel again.



I got tobasco when I said the "F" word ONCE! Then when I was about over it she told me soap would make the fire go away.... Did I mention my parents were both Marines!

Did you have to say yes Gunny, No gunny?

And then do some PT?

[lardbutt]

My father was a retired Marine Drill Instructor. My sister and I almost never got spanked as children. We knew what the rules were. And we knew what the consequences were for breaking those rules. Neither of us ever had a curfew or ever had any run-ins with the law or drugs. (I just didn't get caught a couple times... ) I am a firm believer in letting kids know what is acceptable behavior and what is not. And that punishment will occur when they choose to ignore the rules. Kids need boundaries, they are not born with them pre-programmed.

Dad had two emotions, "none" and "blinding rage". And we just didn't ever provoke the second one...

[ohyeah89]

Originally Posted by BRpunkRock

I got the wooden mixing spoon from the kitchen drawer, pretty soon all my Mom had to do was open the drawer when I was being a pest and I was an angel again.



I got tobasco when I said the "F" word ONCE! Then when I was about over it she told me soap would make the fire go away.... Did I mention my parents were both Marines!

It wasn't the wooden spoon that bothered me, it was the plastic one with holes in it!!! THAT one hurt like hell. Liquid soap that was awful (just taught me not to let me mom *HEAR* me say the bad words). Ha, I was the middle child of 3 girls so I was the one who always got caught.

Coming from a very physical disciplining family (which did not QUITE cross the line but nearly a few times), I think I would have been a much happier child (and teenager, I had major issues in high school) if things were better communicated. Everyone says communication is key in relationships and I think this is 100% true in parent-child relationships!!! Whatever is the best way to communicate to your child in a way that they can understand is totally up to you, but speaking out of experience, if the message is not clear all your physical discipline will only spur resentment and disrespect. But then again, I think I am a relatively healthy and happy human being (thank you therapist and happy meds! LOL) so to each your own. No one should tell *responsible* adults how to raise their children.

[uno-speedo]

I had my fare share of joints as a kid. Amsterdam was fun...from what I remember.

[slowrabbit]

Yeah! could not even think about it. Step out of line well you know. Dam FooFighter those bugs are crawling on me!

[TBlazen]

Man...

Don't get me started

My father imported Bolian Wood to spank me with ...

IT HURT

[mottmcfly]

Every time I race Fontana I feel like I inhaled a meth lab. Does that count?

[duke777]

Just like everyone is different so is every child. When I was a kid communication would of really helped in many cases but in some cases I was just a little brat. Just like people some kids listens better than others. At time I would not listen at all so I can understand some physical consequences I've received as a child.

Now that I'm older and looking back I don't blame my parents at all. They may not be perfect but at least they try their best. That is what matter the most. There are people who beat their kids so they don't have to deal with them and on the other extreme I see some parents just buy the kids what ever they want just to shut them up.

I'm a firm believer that kids need to taught what's right then what's wrong and the consequence of what's wrong. Me being the prime example....thank god I learned early.

[lmnop]

I think people should re-read the original post. Everybody is focusing on the punishment or discipline aspect mentioned. There is more to it than that. It speaks to the "changing times", a phrase we all hear thrown out from time to time. Hell, we might even use it ourselves.

The letter also speaks to the fact that parenting has and is changing, or "evolving", and it may not necessarily be a good thing. I worked in and around the house to get a few dollars, and I felt really good when I got those dollars! I didn't expect my parents to be my limo service, if I wanted to go somewhere it was my bike or the bus. I got dragged to church way too much (probably the reason I don't go today), but I know that much of what was preached rubbed off on me. How could it not?

I'm not going to sound off about "the kids of today", most of us have heard it before. As a parent of a 3-year old girl, I wonder what the future holds and my responsibility to help shape it for her the best I can.

[Shu]

Originally Posted by lmnop

I think people should re-read the original post. Everybody is focusing on the punishment or discipline aspect mentioned. There is more to it than that. It speaks to the "changing times", a phrase we all hear thrown out from time to time. Hell, we might even use it ourselves.

The letter also speaks to the fact that parenting has and is changing, or "evolving", and it may not necessarily be a good thing. I worked in and around the house to get a few dollars, and I felt really good when I got those dollars! I didn't expect my parents to be my limo service, if I wanted to go somewhere it was my bike or the bus. I got dragged to church way too much (probably the reason I don't go today), but I know that much of what was preached rubbed off on me. How could it not?

I'm not going to sound off about "the kids of today", most of us have heard it before. As a parent of a 3-year old girl, I wonder what the future holds and my responsibility to help shape it for her the best I can.

I posted this and didn't respond til now to see how the thread would evolve...and you are right...the parenting thses days has evolved...I believe kids today are more spoiled and aren't taught to be accountable for their actions like the kids of my generation (I'm 41)and before...

Everytime I was spanked or punished I was also talked to at LEGNTH about why I was being punished..I wasn't being TOLD what I did wrong my parents had a discussion w/ me....not at me...

I'm not saying that anyone on this board is a bad parent in anyway..

it seems in our busy lives that BOTH parents HAVING to work just to get by that the "family" suffers..

[gregOREO]

I’m a new parent for 3 months now and I think it’s all about your contact with your child and spending time with them letting them know you are there, but most importantly setting a visual example of what is the correct way to live your life.

I don’t necessarily think it has to do with the parents and how much they instill of right and wrong into their children, don’t get me wrong this is important, however I think what the child see and how they perceive right and wrong plays the biggest part in how they live their life. For example if a child sees the father or mother drinking on drugs, possibly even an abusive relationship they may choose to not want this lifestyle and keep steer away from the above. However they may also see the above as the "norm" and then choose to live their life as such because they perceive this lifestyle as normal because of their upbringing.


My wife that is now 25 has never had a drink, smoked, or done drugs of any kind in her life and she went through rough time like parents’ divorce, abusive father, etc...
In her case she stayed clear away from this. On the other hand myself I did unfortunately follow the wrong path with drinking, and drugs. I saw it from my parents and perceived this to be the "norm".

In conclusion show your child right and wrong by living it every day “practice what you preach”.

Greg
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[art23rockpile]

The first thing I noticed about this thread was the title. I figured it was about... drugs. Interestingly enough, I find it has to do with the style of upbringing we had via our parents, the values thus instilled, and the differences between those times (for me, the 60s/70s) and now.
Both of my parents were hard-working college graduates (now retired). There was never any shortage of love (or discipline) in my family. When I was in school, I was a "mentally gifted minor" (MGM program)... although those who know me would never guess that now .

My parent did their very best to deprive me of an unhappy childhood, but I had one in spite of them. By the time I was 30, I was nearing the end of a ten year heroin addiction and a lengthy criminal record. This from someone who during high-school was considered 'most likely to succeed'. My point is that you can give your children the best upbringing possible, but it's no guarantee that they'll be successful in life. The other side of the coin is that just because someone comes from a 'bad' upbringing, it does not necessarily follow that they'll be failures. Much of what determines a person's course in life has to do with what's on the inside: in their heart and mind... the way they're "wired".

As for me, i've been clean/sober now for over 14 years. It's taken all of that time and much work to understand and begin to fill the void inside me. I have a great life and wouldn't change anything in my past, as it's shaped who i am today. My parents are my best-friends and there is nothing they could have done that could have altered the path i've taken. In an odd way, many of us become successful in life in a manner we could never have imagined.

Just food for thought.

[BRpunkRock]

Originally Posted by bighit8

Did you have to say yes Gunny, No gunny?

And then do some PT?

haha no they were both Officers, My Dad used to make me do pushups for allowance until I got too good at them!