Wives and flirting

[DBD]

Flirting is one thing but having to take of your wedding band to do so is, IMO, not a good thing. If you never wear one then no worries but if you wear a ring most of the time then taking it off would imply to me that you are ashamed of or are looking for something else. Thats my take on it.

As for flirting its self, I have no problems with it and my wife knows that I flirt. I do not do it on purpose it is just the way I act around women, I talk to them as if I were talking to a buddy, jokingly rude sometimes, smartazziness (I know, not a word) and I say what I am thinking. To a lot of people it SOUNDS like I am flirting because of how I present my self.

Now if I am speaking with a female that flirts as well it can look/sound like we are ready to get a room.

It is a basic instinct, attracting someone of the opposite sex is a way to be sure the blood lines continue and flirting is part of the dance. Granted, because of the stigma and prejudice put on having more then one mate the majority of people shy away from doing so especially if they are married or they cover it up. Now if yer single and all the parties involved KNOW that you share yer bed I see no problems but if you have to hide it then you are with the wrong people ..... I am getting ahead of the question ...

Needless to say, flirting is flirting and it is something we all have with in us and if you are not shy it will come to the surface on its own f you do not suppress it. Hell, you may not even know you are doing it.

[Padre]

Originally Posted by integradriv3r

AFTER THE VQ/CC!!! What better way to celebrate than to tell the ladies of your big accomplishment?

Yeah...nothings say's "your awesome" like a fresh STD.

[Pho'dUp]

Originally Posted by back_of_the _pack

I hate the place too, and I have never been there. I guess my daughter and niece like it though (The Stampede must like them too, they put them on the front page of their website).

http://www.temeculastampede.com/index.php

Well, unless they have an open relationship, I agree with everyone else, taking off the ring sounds like a bad idea. Your wife's friend sounds like she's either not happy at home, or is the type that constantly needs the attention from men to feel good about herself.

Btw,

Check out the "dress code" for the Stampede. Sorry, people, looks like lots of the STR folk wouldn't make it past the door.

1. No vulgar or offensive words, slogans or designs.
2. No plain white T-shirts.
3. No "wife beater" T-shirts.
4. No "Metal Mulisha" gear.
5. No Colors.
6. No wallet chains.
7. No pocket knives.
8. No bandanas or headscarves.
9. No studded clothing.
10. No spurs.
11. No bathing suit tops.
12. Ball caps must be worn forward.

Shoes must be worn at all times in the Stampede.
In addition, gentlemen, please no one wants to see your underwear.



Foxfire, Quiet Woman? Here's what the OC Weekly thinks guys.

FOXFIRE
It was on the lips of nearly everyone offering advice about this little gold-digging endeavor of mine.
"Go to the Foxfire. It's a cougar den."
Perfect. For people who've never heard the phrase, a "cougar" is a woman of a certain age who likes to hook up with much younger men. Gold-digging isn't just for women anymore; there are plenty of young studs out there looking for a sugar momma, too. In 1999, Foxfire was named the best singles bar by The Orange County Register (take that for what's its worth), and over the past nine years, it's evolved into an infamous hook-up spot. I went one Friday night to observe the beasts in their natural habitat (it's hard to miss Foxfire's huge, flaming torches—"cougar-beacons," as one patron calls them). But be careful entering this wildcat's lair—they prowl in packs. I settled in a corner and observed four of them situated in the center of the bar. Each had long acrylic nails and unusually dark tans for January. The ladies were checking out a group of well-built young men of the I-just-turned-21 variety, targeting them like wounded antelopes. Although I doubt the guys minded too much, a wounded antelope never stood such a good chance of getting laid. Within a half-hour, they were doing body shots off one another. Magical. 5717 E. Santa Ana Canyon Rd., Anaheim, (714) 974-5400; www.foxfirerestaurant.com.

THE QUIET WOMAN
This place is for the undercover gold digger, a person who doesn't want to dig so obviously. But trust me, there is some serious wealth sitting on those bar stools. On the Newport Beach/Corona del Mar border, the crowd here lives in the area. You know those hillside mansions with the ocean views? Yeah—those people. It's a tiny place, perfect for getting to know the oil tycoon sitting next to you, or you can just sit back in the restaurant side of the room and scout your prey. And what did I observe? Each time the door opened, every pair of eyes darted that direction to see who was coming in. At one point, I accidentally made eye contact with some guy in his late 30s who wore an orange Lacoste polo and sported some tragically obvious hair plugs. I quickly averted my eyes, but he still came over and asked to buy me a drink. Damn it!
"No, thank you," I told him, raising the still-full beverage I was already holding. He lingered around making small talk and finally asked if I'd like to see his powerboat sometime. Was he speaking innuendo? I'm not sure, but I pointed to my fake plastic wedding ring and lied, "Thanks, but I'm married."
"Hey, babe, that's no problem," he leered. "I'm married, too." 3224 E. Pacific Coast Hwy., Corona del Mar, (949) 640-7440.

[jschwart73]

I flirt all the time.

My wife flirts when she's drunk and at a party. Dances like a 19 yr old sorority girl at *the* fraternity party of the year.

We wear our rings most of the time, but sometimes, we don't. Mine in particular, since I was sized for it when I was 25 lbs heavier and it's not re-sizable (titanium...)

Yet neither of us has ever wavered, we're halfway through our 7th year and no itch has hit.

Every relationship and person is different and judging what someone else does based on your morals and beliefs is crazy. If your wife thinks it's bad, then out of respect, don't do it. But if she is comfortable with it, who cares?

Ultimately, don't judge someone who may or may not have the same morals as you.

[SSinGA]

My wife and I have an agreement - she can flirt all she wants if that's all there is and she gets some free drinks out of it.

[airgabe]

Should I attend my ex's (10 years) wedding in 3 weeks? or is this inviting trouble? Do I take a friend who is confident or do I take the girl I am see now?

[Jman]

Someone said it earlier I end up getting flirted with far more with the ring on. That being said my wife and I have been together for 16 and half years (married for 15 of those) and we've been through some rety dark times. We were young and didn't understand what marriage meant. We didn't communicate, we ended up living to completely different lives and there was infidelity (mostly on my part). I felt terrible, I was honest and open with her and we worked it out (that is the REALLY REALLY short version of it...there was a year of uncomfortableness that I can't even begin to describe and a set of twins for us....can you say HELL!!!!) The key is to enjoy each other, have something in common but also somethig fun to do seperately and communication communication and more communication. If you've chatted and understand the boundries of flirting than go for it. For me, I understand very well where it can go and prety much stay far far far away from it. Whay I have at home (a loving family) isn't worth one night of so-so sex!

Sorry hope that didn't come off as preaching....Stepping off the soap box to take the kids to school!

[autoduel]

Originally Posted by DBD

Flirting is one thing but having to take of your wedding band to do so is, IMO, not a good thing. If you never wear one then no worries but if you wear a ring most of the time then taking it off would imply to me that you are ashamed of or are looking for something else. Thats my take on it.

+1

The ring is a symbol of your commitment to each other. Removing it behind the other's back is a betrail of that commitment.
After being married for awhile, I do see how one likes to feel attractive to others especially when your partner does not express it as often as you like. I think that those seeking attention elsewhere, rather than at home has already given up on their partner. Given up in the sense that they do not think they can improve the situation at home to make themselves happier and thus look for it outside their present relationship.
On the other hand, casual flirting is just a indulgence of convenience, but actively seeking out is.

[SheDevil]

I'm never going to QW again. :P Look ...I only went for the chicken wings!!!! (famous hooters excuse right?)

[Trizz]

this thread is getting huge, i would like to see a poll,

[Fired Yo Momma]

I have a answer to your problems... don't get married. I love having a good time but if I was married I would take that crap seriouisly. My buddie's wife goes out with her friends and she takes her wedding ring off and one time she lost her ring because she takes it off so much. I told my buddy not to marry her but hey she looks like the younger Britney Spears.

[JoeTruth]

It all comes down to respect, decency & simple consideration. If you respect & love your wife/husband then you you should have no reason to. When people flirt/cheat or whatever they do, it's usually an attempt to get attention because there is a void at home or in the relationship. That being said, there's lots of gray area in how one interprets "flirting" or "socializing". I'm social so my ex used to always accuse me of being flirtatious. I never thought so but it was always an argument or a discussion over it. It's all a matter of interpretation but usually, one knows their boundaries and how the act would effect the other, if they were present.
Bottom line: Do onto her/him as you would like done onto you. Simple as that.

[TrailJesus]

This thread reminded me of Dell's signature: "Where did the mountain bike forum go?" lol

[G-Ride]

Holy crap. After reading this, I am so f***ing stoked to be single.

[Keith B]

Originally Posted by strobelite

a little mushy, but you dont need to flirt if you have someone you love.

I agree. If something is missing such that this behaviour comes about then it may well be time to look for someone new.

[Clockwork_Rider]

Originally Posted by Rockinthecasbah

everyones different its all about the boundries of each individual relationship and the trust and trust issues of that relationship

That's the only real answer. An outside opinion is always good because it's a different PoV, but it always comes down to what's makes you happy.

[Jordansrealm]

Honestly, if you have to question it, then its wrong.

[cjwally]

www.ashleymadison.com

[northshore]

Wow....the whole reason why I nearly married twice and backed out!! I always run into chics that say something along the lines of, "I never had the chance to live out my 20s" I have never met you or your wife so I can't be cynical or abrasive in anyway because it's simply not fair. What I do recommend is if you are having problems, seek a marriage/family counselor at once! Get these issues on the table first and see if you can work them out. For me personally, I would never marry a girl that can't be honest and straight forward with me in regards to everything. Communication is KEY!!

I guess that's why I love riding so much. I don't hear any whining or complaining, my bike doesn't talk back, but it will bite me back if I ride her incorrectly.